Time is the hardest thing to wait on!!! Time brings peace and a new beginning. There is no universal timeline for getting over a divorce. Healing is not a race it is a process.

Most say do not make any major decisions for one year after a divorce. I followed that lead and rented a place for awhile before purchasing a patio home that suited my needs at the time. Some days felt hopeful, while others will pull you back into the ache of what happened. You will be blindsided by waves of sadness but push through them because with time those get more and more rare. There will come a day you realize you did not cry and those moments will grow, and with time, you will find yourself again - your whole self.

For myself when I realized alot of my tears were for the way I wanted things to be instead of the way they actually were it was a game changer. You cannot mourn something that never existed you can only mourn the actual situation. Do not minimize or let your ex spouse minimize the reason for the divorce.

In my situation I let the gaslighting go way too far. Do not listen to the excuses for the behavior because there will be tons of that coming your way. Shut it down right from the start because it delays the healing you are trying to achieve.

This is now your journey and yours alone! Rebuild, enjoy it, get out of you comfort zone and go out and make an awesome new life.